Laziness and Procrastination: Your Problems?

"Why am I so damn lazy?" This is the question I usually ask myself. Maybe you also have some kind of question that is similar to mine. Of course, you might ask yourself " How I gonna go through this semester exam if I still keep lazy like this?" If it is true to you then we are in the same situation. And I know you are lazy right now, and you are reading my note instead of doing what you are supposed to do. That's who we are! We are the same.

But Let's look at what we can do to get rid of laziness and how to turn it into productive.
Here are some tips I found on Wikihow and hope you find it useful:

1. Try to figure out the single detail or problem which is holding you back. 
2. Decide to start the work, and you are well on your way to completing it. 
3. Convince yourself that you can do something.
4. Focus only one task, the one you are doing
5. Gear yourself up into action by telling yourself something like "I want to do this, so I'll just do it and rest later." say it out loud if you have to. You'll have motivate after this.
6.  Finish a step and cheer up: Completing that task will feel remarkly good and tell yourself out loud if you like "Good stuff, you are on a roll; keep it up and you are going to make it to the end of this."
7. Continue working: It's hard to get on a roll, so once you are there, jump right into your next goal as soon as you've done reward yourself. The longer you delay re-starting, the harder it will be to re-start. But the sooner you re-start, the more confident you will feel--and that will reinforce the positive behavior that leads to feeling that you can do anything.
8. Don't give up: It's one thing to find your motivation. But, it's another thing to keep it going when the going gets tough--especially when it's an unforeseen problem! The more avoidant you are the more you will feel like giving up. How to get past the tough point? Tell yourself over and over: "I really want to get past this; I really want to overcome this", until you believe that you actually don't want to give up.

My Giving Blood

Drawing Blood

As I remember what I said in my previous post, I said I will give blood soon, no later than this year. Now I do it. I feel pretty good today so I decided to give it a try. I  have been frightening for almost one week earlier. This is my first time that I give blood and now I think I will keep doing this regularly. After giving blood I realized that there is nothing to worry about. I feel totally okay and good.
From now on, I will not feel ashame any more and of course I will have confident to talk to donors and friends who want to give blood. I can tell them that I also give blood. I can tell them that giving blood is safe and good for helping people life. One more thing is that your donation is really appreciated. Please give it a try and see how you feel!

Do Small Acts of Kindness

There is a statement said "if you ever feel depressed, the best thing to do is to do something for someone else." The statement is quit strange, isn't it? Helping others can make me feel good? you may asked yourself.

So let me ask you, have you ever done something for your friends? or helping your mom cook dinner? (I mean helping without asking for help or force to do) Did you notice your feeling at that time?

To me, I didn't believe it when I first read this statement. I thought how can I feel good to take my time to do something for others without asking for and  maybe they think I am crazy or something wrong with me.

But after reading the story in the book, I understand what the author mean and how the feeling goes when we do something for others. It's hard for me to explain, but the story may make you understand more easier. And the story goes as bellow:

I remember sitting in an airport one day, waiting for my flight. I was excited because I had been upgraded to a first-class ticket. And in first-class, the seats are bigger, the food is edible, and the flight attendants are actually nice. In fact, I had the best seat on the entire plane. Seat 1A. Before boarding, I noticed a young lady who had several carry-on bags and was holding a crying baby. Having just finished reading a book on doing random acts of kindness, I heard my conscience speak to me, "You scumbag. Let her have your ticket." I fought these prompting for a while but eventually caved in:

   "Excuse me, but you like you could use this first-class ticket more than me. I know how hard it can be flying with kids. Why don't you let me trade you tickets."

  "Are you sure?"

  "Oh yeah. I really don't mind. I'm just going to be working the whole time, anyway."

  "Well, thank you. That's very kind of you," she said, as we swapped tickets. 

As we boarded the plane, I was surprised at how good it made me feel to watch her sit down in seat 1A. In fact, under the circumstances, seat 24B or wherever the heck I was sitting didn't seem that bad at all. At one point during the flight I was so curious to see how she was doing that I could hardly stand it. So I got up out of my seat, walked to the first-class from coach. There she was with her baby, both asleep in big and comfortable seat 1A. And I felt like a million bucks. Cha-ching. I've got to keep doing this kind of thing.

You see? Helping others will make you feel wonderful to yourself.

Keep Promises to Yourself

Making a promise is quite easy, but keeping it is not as easy as saying. When you make a promise to somebody, then you are trying to let them believe in you. You may swear, say a word, just in order to make he or she trust you. But do you keep your words?

Have you ever make a promise to your friends or getting promise back? Have you ever had a friend who promised to do you a favor, but they don't? Or they say they will pick you up but they don't? After a while, you feel no truth to them.

The same thing happen when you make and break self-promise. Have you ever promise to yourself such as "I am going to wahs my clothes this evening" or "I am going to finish my assigment right away when I get home" But unfortunaty you break your promise. And after a while you don't trust yourself.

So what I am trying to say is make a promise to yourself and keep it. We should threat our commitment seriously as we do to the most important people in our lives. If you feel that you are running out of control in life, then focus on single thing you can control-yourself. Start with a small promise that you are sure you can make it such as committing to get up at 6 am every morning. After a while, you gain selt-trust and then you can make a bigger promise that is more difficult. Soon you will get into a good habit that may change your life.

Try it! You will see how you great you are!

Baby Steps

I have read through all the first part of the book which is called Paradigms and Principles and I recently have posted one topic about paradigm, your point of view toward yourself and others. What I noticed is that I have already posted some topics about principle such as the principle of life-center, friend-center, boyfriend/girlfriend-center in the last few posts. Now I think I gonna move straightaway to the habits. But before I begin to summary about habit one I want to share with all of you some useful tips for your daily life that Sean Covey called it a baby step, to bush you up, encourage and inspire you.

Here are some of my favorites and hope you like it:

1. The next time you look in the mirror say something positive about yourself.
2. Show appreciation for some one's point of view today. Say something like "Hey, that is a cool idea."
3. Begin today to treat others as you would want them to treat you. Don't be impatient, complain about leftovers, or bad-mouth someone, unless you want the same treatment.
4. Sometime soon, find a quiet place where you can be alone. Think about what matters most to you.
5. When you do your tasks tonight at home or work, try out the principle of hard-work. Go the extra mile and do more than is expected.

What Is a Paradigm?

Paradigm is a general point of view of a particular topic. There can be a paradigm of life or paradigm of self and many others. A paradigm is like a glasses that you wear. So if you have a incomplete paradigms or we can say low paradigm about yourself or life in general, it's like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription. Have you ever heard the phrase say "what you see is what you got"? that is if you believed yourself dumb, that concept will make you dumb. If you think your friend is dumb then you will try to find evidence to support your ideas and your friend will remained dumb in your eyes.

 I want to share with you about how I see myself in the last few years. When I studied at primary school, my teacher taught us how to dance and how to sing. One day my teacher gave me a chance to dance in front of the classes. Immediately I started to move my hands, my friends started to laugh and made fun of my gesture. I was very shy and thought that i was very bad at it and can never be able to dance as others. I vowed to myself that I will never dace again in my life. Luckily, when I got into college my friends always insisted me again and again to try dancing. They even taught me how to dance. After a few times of dancing with my friends, I felt better toward myself, I felt like I had removed an obstacle from myself and wanted to improve more. When I finished university, I got a job and then the time for party was coming and also the chances for dancing as well. I improved a lots since then. Now I see myself as other people that can dance and sing. Thanks to my friends, especially Borey who always willing to help and teach me dancing.

Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens (Introduction)

Let me give you a brief of what is Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens.
Believe it or not this book can change your life? I am not trying to promote this book to you, but I am saying the truth. If you can you better buy this book and read it by your self. However, here is what the book is all about:

Habit 1: Be Proactive (In this habit you will learn how to take responsibility for your life)
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind (Learn to set your goal in life)
Habit 3: Put First Things First (Do the most important thing first and the less important last)
Habit 4: Think Win-Win (Get in the win-win attitude)
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood (Try to understand other before you can make them understand you)
Habit 6: Synergize (Work together to archive more)
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw (Renew yourself regularly)

I will show you how these seven powerful habits can change your life and someone around in the later post.

Being Right Vs Being Kind

The question is being right or being kind?

It always arise in my head about how I respond to the question. Every time of our communication with other people no matter with our friends or our co worker or even people we don't know, it's always a choice for us to choose whether we choose to be right or to be kind.

When people making mistakes do you correct them? or keep silence to show that you are being kind to them even you know it is not a good respond.

In my work place, I always face this problem. My boss said you are suggested to report when people making mistakes. Do I have to be right and report every tiny mistakes? How about my friends' feeling? What are they gonna feel about me? But if i don't do it they may do it. They gonna make me headach? How i gonna feel toward them? Or should I keep silence and be kind to them even i know they are doing something wrong against the company's policy?

I want to ask you how do you respond to this question?

Feeling ashamed!

There was one guy coming from Germany to Cambodia for vocation. This afternoon he went to Angkor Hospital for Children in order to make a difference in Siem Reap. He told me that he like Cambodian, he added that Cambodian people are very friendly and polite so he want to give his pure blood to the Cambodian children.

I feel very happy to hear this word. I asked him how many times have you donated blood? He said he have donated blood for more then 30 times and he will continues to give more. Then he asked me " Do you give blood?" I got stuck! don't know what to respond coz I never do it. After push a few second I told him the truth that I never give blood before, but I am going to give soon. He smiled at me and say " Are you married?" I say " No" then he continues " If you are married or a teacher how can you teach your student if you don't give them the example. You have to give the Cambodian people this example so that they will follow you. Promise me you will give blood this year!". I feel very ashamed and respond " Yes, I promise I will do it this year."

International Half Marathon on 05 December 2010

10KM International Half Marathon on 05 December 2010

15th Angkor Wat International Half Marathon 2010